Friday, September 26, 2014

Lesson of the day: Take initiative.

So, just the other day I was praying with the girls about the adoption process.  Frustrated that when I actually manage to connect via telephone with our lawyer, she always says, "No news.  I'll go check tomorrow."  Strange that every time we talk, she had already planned to go "tomorrow".  Anyway, since the social worker who needed to do our last interview had been out for 2 months, the lawyer told us she was busy catching up on work.  I prayed that God would give us preference in her mind and give us a date for the interview.  Natty informed me that I was being selfish...maybe she was right.  So, I changed the prayer and asked that God would put us after those who need the interview a lot quicker than us- whatever that means.  When we went into town today to sign the adoption book, I suddenly decided I was going to take matters into my own hands and ask if the social worker was there.  The guy working behind the desk pointed out her office and said I could knock.  When we got in front of her door, I suddenly didn't know what I was going to say.  Our lawyer had told me that she needed to be the one to make the appointment and I felt like I must be jumping out of order of the chain of command , but I also felt like this is our process and we've hired this lawyer to help us.  Surely, getting involved of my own initiative couldn't hurt anything as long as I maintained a smile.  We knocked, she answered and then she had us sit while she fumbled around with her printer for a while.  While we waited, she asked us to have the secretary get our file ready.  Then, she sat us down at her desk and we talked about everything from evangelicals "hating" Catholics to spanking to miraculous healing and a bit about adoption in between.  I kept wondering if this was the real interview or if this lady was just in the mood to talk.  Although we had an approaching meeting that it was becoming more obvious we weren't going to make it on time for, we decided this was more important.  When a co-worker informed her that it was time for lunch, she closed our file and said, "So, do you want me to come do a home visit or should I just go ahead and send my report to the judge?"  Uh....yes?!  Scotty invited her to our house and she said she'd go ahead and send the report on Monday, but come to our house the following Wednesday because she like us.  I gave her a big hug and thanked her profusely and we ran (literally) out of the building thanking the Lord and astounded how it had all gone down.  When I called the lawyer with a bit of trepidation because we had overstepped her, she commented nonchalantly, "Oh, good.  She's never there when I go."  Hmmm....why didn't you tell us we could go and try to make the appointment ourselves since we are there EVERY WEEK, I wanted to say.  Oh, well.  I think I've got this polite assertiveness thing going and I'll just run with that for a bit.  So, YAY!  Almost done!

1 comment:

beth said...

That's so exciting, Lisa! Yay for being politely assertive. Very Southern : )